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Albanian soldier 'fuck your mother' friendship ritual

anecdote · personal/autobiographical · retold in 3 talks

In the Yugoslav army, Žižek and an Albanian intellectual soldier became true friends only when the soldier said 'I fuck your mother,' which Žižek reciprocated; thereafter they greeted each other only with 'Mother' / 'Sister', a shorthand reminder of genuine friendship enacted through mutual obscenity.

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“Every morning that we met instead of saying 'Hello, good morning,' we just…he told me 'Mother,' I told him 'Sister.' You know? It was just a reminder we are still friends.”
“he told me 'mother,' I said 'sister.' Without any laughter, it was a basic solidarity.”

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In the Yugoslav army, Žižek and an Albanian intellectual soldier became true friends only when the soldier said 'I fuck your mother,' which Žižek reciprocated; thereafter they greeted each other only with 'Mother' / 'Sister', a shorthand reminder of genuine friendship enacted through mutual obscenity., illustrating emancipatory obscenity,ethnic solidarity,brotherhoods and unity
Žižek's Albanian army colleague greeted him one morning with 'I screw your mother' as a bid for real friendship; Žižek immediately replied 'after I finish with your sister,' they embraced, and thereafter exchanged only the words 'mother'/'sister' each morning as a sign of solidarity., illustrating obscenity as authentic social bond,left-wing racism as solidarity,meta-rules of social interaction