Four Weddings and a Funeral
example · film: Four Weddings and a Funeral ·
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Hugh Grant's fumbling, repetitive declaration of love in 'Four Weddings and a Funeral' is for Žižek the model of authentic love declaration: if done too smoothly, it signals mere performance, not genuine feeling.
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As told 7
“When Hugh Grant declares love to Andie MacDowell, he gets in his typical way, stumbles, repeats himself. That's how you declare love.”
“A perfect love letter that's my eternal example from that stupid movie Hugh Grant in Four Weddings and a Funeral. A perfect statement of love is suspicious.”
“I'm ashamed to tell its failure to be. Something is absolutely co-existent with its failure.”
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one story, many jobs: the ideas this anecdote is deployed to argue, one tally mark per use (an idea page shows the same relation from the other end, as its shelf of stories)
Its cast and sources
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Hugh Grant2Matthew the Apostle1Jaron Lanier1Moses1Stephen Frosh1Phyllis Schlafly1Richard Lewontin1Bill Maher1
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Every retelling 7
Hugh Grant's fumbling, repetitive declaration of love in 'Four Weddings and a Funeral' is for Žižek the model of authentic love declaration: if done too smoothly, it signals mere performance, not genuine feeling., illustrating misspeaking as invention,love as freely imposed choice
Žižek uses Hugh Grant's character in 'Four Weddings and a Funeral' as an example of a 'perfect love letter' that is suspicious because it declares love too perfectly; true love shows in the failure to declare it perfectly., illustrating shows itself,knowledge as fetish
The famous scene where Hugh Grant’s character fails to deliver his love declaration to Andie MacDowell, illustrating that 'something is absolutely co-existent with its failure', the subject is defined by its failure to be a substance., illustrating subject as failure
Hugh Grant's stuttering, perpetually-interrupted declaration of love to Andie MacDowell in Four Weddings and a Funeral: the vulgar lesson is that it is only through this clumsiness that authentic love can be transmitted, a perfectly smooth declaration would mean something is wrong with the love., illustrating failure elevated into triumph,mediation,negativity
In Four Weddings and a Funeral, Hugh Grant's fumbling, stumbling love declaration to Andie MacDowell works precisely because it fails, his incoherence is the only way to authentically convey love, whereas a smooth polished declaration would seem like a rehearsed lesson., illustrating Hugh Grant paradox,eroticization of failure,passage through failure,radical contingency
Hugh Grant's stumbling, interrupted love declaration is paradoxically more convincing as authentic precisely because of its failures; a smooth declaration would seem rehearsed and artificial., illustrating sexuality as failure,the Absolute through failure