Hysterical question: 'Tell me why do you love me'
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The eternal feminine question 'Tell me why you love me' is not neurotic nagging but the radical Lacanian question 'what kind of object am I for you?', the origin of all genuine subjective questioning.
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As told 3
“Tell me why do you love me. It's an authentic question, the question is precisely what kind of an object I am for you.”
“the moment you give reasons it's not love or it's much more delicate”
“That's why I love it when you say to a woman 'I love you,' you get this eternal question: 'Tell me why you love.' You cannot answer.”
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The eternal feminine question 'Tell me why you love me' is not neurotic nagging but the radical Lacanian question 'what kind of object am I for you?', the origin of all genuine subjective questioning., illustrating hysteria as founding gesture of subjectivity,objet petit a,hysterical question
A woman asking a man 'why do you love me?' has no satisfactory answer: any list of reasons is not love; yet the reasons only make sense if you are already in love. This parallels religious faith, you only understand the reasons from inside belief., illustrating subject as plus,love and faith as analogous structures,anti-wisdom
When a man says 'I love you,' the woman asks 'why?', a question he can never answer. This hysterical provocation mirrors the master's demand 'tell me what's my identity,' which is by definition unanswerable., illustrating the hysterical subject,subjectivity as excess over identity