Think Again Podcast: Against Tolerance
In this interview on the 'Think Again' podcast (recorded on the day of the 2016 US election), Žižek discusses the Trump-Clinton race, arguing both candidates represent a broken status quo in different ways: Trump as a disgusting but opportunist disruptor, Clinton as a guarantor of stagnation that marginalized Bernie Sanders' genuine left alternative. The conversation ranges across identity politics and global capitalism, the refugee crisis and limits of liberal tolerance, gender roles in late capitalism, standardized testing and creativity, and female desire in long-term relationships. A second segment has Žižek reacting to video clips of other thinkers.
The ideas in it 10
in the order they first come up; click a row for what he does with the idea here
Stories he reaches for 3
Works invoked 4
People invoked 20
What it argues
Dialectical moves 5
Claims 12
Quotes 9
“both are worse. not both are equally bad, but both are worse.”Slavoj Žižek · Stalin's formula applied to Trump vs. Clinton
“we like coffee without caffeine, beer without alcohol, sausage without fat. we like to get a neighbor, an ethnic other without its dark side, a kind of a purified, decaffeinated neighbor”Slavoj Žižek · decaffeinated neighbor / patronizing liberal multiculturalism
“today's radical progressives talk a lot about change, about the necessity of change, to make it sure that there will be no change.”Slavoj Žižek · change-talk as ideological cover for stasis
“true creativity is not to break out of cliches, but to install new cliches. every idiot can be creative in the sense of i'm out of clichés.”Slavoj Žižek · true creativity as installing new conventions
“i believe in a struggling universality. we have problems, indians have problems, arabs have problems. can we form a united front?”Slavoj Žižek · struggling universality vs. multicultural pluralism
“to understand a culture is ultimately to understand their problem, their antagonism.”Slavoj Žižek · understanding through shared antagonism
“being called star of philosophy popular is a refined way to attack me. it's a way to say, oh, you are a funny guy, but not too serious.”Slavoj Žižek · celebrity label as intellectual dismissal
“who can say that i even understand myself. true tolerance is not i should understand all your myths and so on.”Slavoj Žižek · opacity of the self as basis for genuine tolerance
“you don't really want to solve a problem, you want to guarantee your reproduction.”Slavoj Žižek · institutional self-perpetuation vs. problem-solving
Transcript 227 turns
today i'm very excited to be here with slavoy jijek. he's a hegelian philosopher, Lacanian psychoanalyst, and political activist. he's the... you dropped communist political. an ex-communist polit. not intentionally. it wasn't in the back of your book. maybe your.
the political court will establish your responsibility. it's not up to you to decide.
okay. fair enough, fair enough. he's the international director of the Birkbeck Institute for the humanities, global distinguished professor of german at new york university, and his newest book is refugees, terror, and other troubles with the neighbors, against the double blackmail. welcome to think again, Slavoj. i'm glad to be.
here again.
so glad to have you. today, while we're recording this, i mean, this will come out a week later, but we're voting in america. people are very emotional. they're very proud. they're posting to facebook. i had my nine-year-old son with me in the polls today. but reading your book, you know, my sense is that you would view the election sort of in a sense, whichever side you vote on, it's a broken system. the whole thing needs to be kind of redesigned.
yeah, in my last text on the election, i, ironically, of course, referred to a famous answer by joseph stalin, who when asked in 1928, i think, by some of official his newspaper, of course, which deviation is worse, the right wing or the left wing, he said, both are worse. not both are equally bad, but both are worse. and i think it's something like this here. on the one hand, trump is worse. i mean, the ideas that he stands for all the white supremacy people, blah, blah, blah, it's just much lower than at least the official ideology of democratic party and all those lgbt plus groups and so on, that stands behind it and so on. so trump is worse. but at the same time, insofar as trump stands, although a bad change, for some kind of political dynamics.
right.
clinton is worse in the sense that she is simply for the status quo. and that's my problem with hillary clinton. she reunited in a masterful ideological operation everyone who is hillary clinton. from occupy wall street to wall street, from lgbt, black liberation, gay rights to saudi arabian money, whatever you want and so on. the price for this was, of course, bernie sanders, who was at least the beginning of a true alternative, had to be erased, had to disappear. and that's what worries me with, i'm sure she will win, hillary's victory. nothing will happen. it's the status quo, which means that probably in a couple of years, trump will be again here. what i was not, as it was misrepresented, for trump, i mean, it makes me throw.
and let me interrupt.
amen.
and comment.
yeah, please yeah.
the internet has been putting a lot of articles out saying that slavo here is pro-trump. in fact, what he said was exactly
yes.
that is what you're saying.
no, i'm just saying as you said, i'm trying to involve you so that if i'm linkedched, you will be lynched with me.
hang from the
yeah yeah that we should, without in any case voting for trump, we should just coldly appreciate this situation. maybe i'm wrong, i can even be convinced here, but if hilary wins, nothing changes. and even more dangerously, what worries me, all those big banks cold war warriors like wolfowitz and so on standing with her, i think she will be this horrible combination of some concessions to progressive sexual freedoms, blah blah, but it's part of the same package with aggressive foreign policy and so on and so on. while with trump, disgusting as he is, first i think this fear that practically he will introduce fascism or what. he cannot do it. united states are too complex a country and you cannot apply to him this situation of 1933 where also many leftists thought it's better hitler, that at least the front will be clear, move and so on. no, no, trump cannot do this. trump is not simply a neo-fascist. a radical... often confused opportunist. he often sometimes even said things which made sense. for example, you know, at a certain point he said, but we should show a little bit more opening for palestinian side also to see it. then in a typical trump way, when there was a jewish backlash, he said, no, no, no, jerusalem is the eternal capital of israel, all that stuff. he's radically opportunist.
i mean, i think the concern that a lot of people have, myself included, that he's unpredictable. we don't know what he.
and here i respectfully. i with you. i think he has a lot of this posturing and so on, but i think that basically in his acts, he's just a very realistic opportunist and i don't think, i wouldn't even expect any big changes with him in power. what i do fear, i'm aware of the stuff first. i know that the very fact that he mobilized white supremists and is dangerous point. if he nominates all the judges, in the supreme court it's a problem. but for 40 years
so.
yeah, yeah yeah. but what i, nonetheless think is that. his victory. which will not happen. would have been such a shock. that it would hopefully trigger a certain process which i think would more or less certainly brought out a certain revitalized, not communist left, but let's say bernie sanders a step further and point two, it would have been a great problem for republican party, although people think that no, all these opportunisms, different factions in the republican party that in his victory they would be united. i don't believe this. i think that, okay, i'll put it like this. now i will say something radical. okay. those people i detect in those moderate leftist liberals who fell into this game, oh, hillary is nonetheless the lesser evil desperately in this her, that they secretly know that trump means change. he is a voice of those enraged disappointment which could be maybe redirected, that they are really horrified at change as such. they really, i quote in my new text, which appeared digitally online in in these times two days ago, i quote a wonderful passage from george orwell, who claims that today's radical progressives talk a lot about change, about the necessity of change, to make it sure that there will be no change. you know. i think that...
but are you saying that all change is good? i mean, like shooting a nuclear bomb at the us.
i know it's a radical change, but it's not good.
no.
no, but i'm not there. saying that this fear of, again i repeat it, trump is disgusting, but this fear of trump that it will mean new fascism, i don't share this fear. i think he is really a very opportune
i think it means significant empowerment of some very, very ugly elements in american society, which i'm not
maybe but it doesn.
.
and he's not elected.
but.
but at the same time, i think that the big problem of united states from the very beginning, maybe the last time of a strong socialist party was, i think, in the years, not even decades after world war i, think.
well, maybe yeah, 1930s.
ter was lady.
that.
i think there was some sup socialist workers party. so i think that what would be wonderful news for the united states is to make a step over this. radical eccentric circles and just this one issue movements and so on, like which are nice, lgbt, gay rights and so on, to make it into a serious a a little bit more radical political force, what in european terms would have been not too moderate but not too radical but a serious, even social democratic force. and that's for me the tragedy of hill. her greatest act will not be defeating trump, that was easy to do, but defeating the threat of this alternative bernie sanders and so on.
oh, i see, i see. so your issue, as i understand it from the book, is with this sort of tepid alliance of global capitalism, like that issues like lgbt rights and whatever get subsumed into this giant global octopus of global capitalism.
yeah, and it works. and it works in the sense of that's the big problem i have with some feminists and so on, where i claim to put it in this bombastic marxist terms, the predominant ideology of today's global capitalism in the developed western countries is no longer patriarchy and so on. it's precisely this type of, let's call it, watered-down judith butler, you know. judith butler, okay. watered down in the sense of this common perception of let's not have a transfixed identity, we need the freedom to redefine ourselves, to reinvent ourselves and this is why also gbt plus fits it perfectly. this idea, no fixed divisions, we always reconstruct ourselves, redefine ourselves and so on. of absolutely.
easily
no i am here, not so much commodified, but i'm saying even not only that it is easily appropriated, but that it is fundamentally the ideology of today's global capitalism. no, now. oh i.
identity politics equals global capital.
oh wait. no know in what sense equals, if you deprive identity politics of its social edge, and that's the whole artistry of american mainstream politics, to be for identity politics, to deprive it of its more radical social edge. so that, for example, that's why i criticize the notion of tolerance. tolerance means instead of political struggle, which is intolerant, the problem becomes i am who i am, you are who i am, we should learn to tolerate each other and so on and so on. this is not what even right-wing authentic politics is. authentic politics is i have a global vision which is different for yours. let's fight without killing each other. but let's fight radically to the end.
one really interesting thing in your book is the chapter on the stranger. and this brings me to that. the idea of the neighbor and the chapter is called the limits of neighborhood. and you quote another writer and essentially say that creepiness is the modern definition or the modern
yeah.
core of the neighbor. and you say you basically say we shouldn't try and within this refugee crisis and other other global issues we shouldn't try to sentimentally sympathize or empathize with the pain of others, but we should
recognize our
alienation from
no, i'm trying to say something else. i also quote it in the book. for example, you know, often we encounter in politics, for me at least, utter stupidities which appear as wisdom. and i quote one you may remember, which is, enemy someone to whose story we were not able or ready to listen to right right okay it sounds deep and it's understandable like you have your own vision. i don't care it. i stigmatize you as the enemy. i don't want to hear your side of the story. sorry, but this wisdom has great limitations. would you also say, for example, that hitler was our enemy because we were not ready to listen? no, there are real enemies. okay where the more you listen to his story,
the more you should hate him. but speaking as one of these liberals that you're sort of writing against in that section.
because, because i think...
that's me.
i think that's me. listen, i can tell you something with all my friendship. when we the people take over, you go to gulak, but you call me, i will arrange that you will get cigarettes and whiskey there. you will not suffer too much. okay, let's excellent excellent. be sort of an oligarchy in oligia.
yeah.
but i am not saying we should not understand our neighbor and so on. i'm just saying there is a limit and true tolerance is not this. i should absolutely understand you. true tolerance is i don't understand you because as i put it cynically, i think in the book, who can say that i even understand myself. yeah, true tolerance for me is not i should understand all your myths and so on. true tolerance is we are in one of these big around washington square, these high condominiums and so on. and my ideal is to live there. next apartment is an african american, next apartment an indian, an arab. hardline jew, latino- american and we have polite relations maybe, maybe not i become friendly with none of them but we fully respect each other with all the differences. that's almost my ideal society. i don't like this absolute pressure. i must understand you to the end no the true the true even the true love is this. the true love now i'm moving, but it a good parallel i think to personal level. i never like this idea of total love we think like one and so on. that's horrible. in true love you leave to your beloved a certain autonomy. you know you cannot penetrate her not sexually but mentally totally and so on. so why this obsession with understanding the other to the end that's not the problem. and i think the problem is just the problem is that even if we don't at this level of ways of life, understand each other, we should build a common front. so my idea is, look, i always use this wonderful example. you remember tahrir square egypt demonstrations. okay. till that point, it was always popular to say, but can we understand egyptians, are they mature for democracy? when that happened, all of a sudden... all those shitty problems of multiculturalism, do we understand them, disappeared and we were not wrong. we knew now we are on the same side. this is our shared struggle. i like those moments. i don't think, as some liberal cynics would have said, bad liberals now not you, that this is just an illusion. no, it's not an illusion. this is authentic universality, which is always the universality of a struggle. not that unesco book book universality where old world cultures are described as big contributions to world humanity. i believe in a struggling universality. we have problems, indians have problems, arabs have problems. can we form a united front? okay, so i totally get that on no, i get it on the political level.
cultural level, i understand that we can't even understand ourselves, let alone understand another person.
fully. i
or.
also communities, one community, one way of life, right.
right. and i also understand something that you're saying, which i think is really interesting, which is that when we attempt to fully understand one another, what we essentially do is impress a set of assumptions upon the other. which then, when they don't meet those assignments,
i'm
get pissed.
off and we get angry or insulted or whatever. typical with african americans or with native americans. for example, how often i found my friends celebrating blacks, african americans as wonderful their music, blah blah blah. but then when you meet as every social group has it, a more brutal side, whatever, they get in total panic, you know, all of a sudden they understand, you know what's the problem? if i may use my old metaphor, in the same way that in today's consumerism, we like to get a product without its rough element. we like coffee without caffeine, beer without alcohol, sausage without fat. we like to get a neighbor, an ethnic other without its dark side, a kind of a purified, decaffeinated neighbor, i call them, you know. but for me, true respect for the neighbor is that precisely you accept the neighbor not as someone who should not be criticized, but you accept him precisely as someone with all his weaknesses, horrors, respectfully get engaged in a dialogue with him. not this patronizing respect which is false. sorry
so in some ways, i guess what i want to say though is that i think that there is a type of empathy and that there is a value of empathy which is not sentimental or patronizing and which is actually a desire at any rate, to find some kind of common ground with other human beings.
and i don't know.
if if these terms are even meaningful anymore, but in a way it seems like what you're describing is a very kind of what i would think of or would have thought of at one time in history as a very masculine perspective, a kind of like robust like let us make fun of each other and go to battle.
together.
no. right.
have the ultimate surprise for you.
i
which is not the say only for men, but now, as a good feminist, i would tell you, which notion of masculinity, femininity you have here. these roles are historical and change. for example, now comes the big. i think that the very couple trump, hillary, trump clinton tells us a lot. till now we have a certain notion of masculinity which was predominant. it was, i follow here my good friend alain badiou who develops this in his new book, which was defined by a certain right of maturity. like in traditional societies, but this men till 30, 40 years ago, you become really a man after some initiation, either in which was typical after you serve the army that was the initiation or after you find a permanent job or after you get married or even after you finish your studies now this symbolic moment of initiation are disappearing no longer have weight right men are more and more this is a tendency, but a profound one, defined by their, let's call it, prolonged adolescence. you are never mature even when you are adult, you remain an adolescent right and then women, very interestingly, are to a large extent treated as prematurely mature. already girls are treated as women responsible for them. so what is happening in our social space is that because of this lack of moment of initiation, which provides you with a certain identity, men then look for a that in half illegal gangs and so on.
all.
stuff, violence and so on. while women are emerging as something much more interesting. there is a new figure of power today which mobilizes certain traditional features of femininity, not just brutality but comprehending, understanding, which fits, let's call it post-authoritarian functioning of power even better. but you quotes a wonderful example. he says, look at typical . french courts for young delinquents. the typical scene is a young immigrant working class boy, non-socialized, immature, part of a gang, treated for him by faces of power which are for him predominantly feminine. judges, feminist judges, psychiatrists and so on. so i think that this new duality, man as immature rationally aggressive, exploding, not controlling himself. on the other hand, woman is more compassionate and so on. but at the same time,
in power. yeah.
first, let me make it clear. i'm not saying these are women. i'm here, i'm totally pro-feminist. i'm just saying this is one position which is of power which is today offered to women. okay, my point is this one. it's not an ideal example of this the couple donald trump-hary. donald trump is the ultimate, isn't he a perpetual adolescent? what is?
he just
expl as this well hilary is this ultimate manipulative woman and even i heard some rumors, who knows if they are true, that even this is how their true personal relationship works.
okay.
who is, i mean, hillary and bill. and bill. it's bill who is now more weakened, so weakened, and hillary already in the levinsky affair, she was not that oh crying, what are you doing, but totally in control, strategic., she was okay, go to play with monica, well i'll do the serious plotting. so in other words, i like to see this couple, hillary and trump, yeah as a new version of sexual difference, of gender roles emerging in late capitalism. and they are not only bad for the men, but also bad for the women it allows women more power, but only if you obey these brutal commercialized, commodified rules of feminine manipulation and so on. this worries me. no, no, no, it's not only here. look, i even in a certain way i even admire this. did you notice that in the last decades, if you want really tough job done, margaret thatcher, indira gandhi, you need a woman and i like that. even in germany, angela merkel was a nice
no, but i understand what you're saying. i understand what you're saying.
i am not saying that this is an argument against women's power,. it's just that we have women demands for power. i totally agree with them and then in a tricky way it offers you, okay, you women want power, here you have it in. here's how you have to.
give yeah.
al.
whatever.
and this is a very sect tendency.
yes, i can totally buy that. i guess no, no, no. again, going back to what we were saying before, i think you propose a dichotomy which may exist, but that the sole binary in that dichotomy doesn't have to be between sentimental, insultingly superior kind of pity for the other, and on the other hand, this sort of distance and solidarity. i don't think those are the only like i think that there is, there are visions of coming to understanding through understanding the other.
your understanding is a very painful long process which goes well beyond any kind of sentiment. you know in what sense? you know, i will tell you how. you will probably not agree with it. i think it was the only moment i come to an understanding with my chinese friends. i was there at the philosophical conference and okay, we just talked obviously, we talked empty. and then somebody attacked me and another guy attacked me, but they attacked me in a totally different way and they ended up attacking each other. and i was able to identify with that struggle. all of a sudden there were no problems. i was fighting for one against the other, you know, to understand a culture. is ultimately to understand their problem, their antagonism. that would be my. i don't otherwise you mystify the other into this, you know, they live some organic, meaningful life. they know we are all in the same shit. i don't believe in some people there, like this is, or even with revolutionary activists.
but what about the psychological experience of being a person and having a kid? and for example, let me give you an example really quick, and then let's move on to the next thing after i hear your response. you know, there's this guy. he works in the parking garage where we park our car., it's a real guy.
yeah, yeah.
he... a few days ago, like i'm like, how you doing? you know, i didn't know anything. the guy's from the dominican republic. i see him when i park my car. i said, how you doing? and he's like, not so good. and i'm like, what's going on? and it turns out his daughter, who's like 30, is in a coma. and he and i had a moment, like she just fell into a coma. and like i had a moment where i stared across the abyss between of culture and everything else that divides me and this guy, and i just like hugged the man. i don't know. no, no.
i totally believe in such moments, but you saw that it was a moment of pain, of nonetheless.
yeah.
to be this, i think.
but that is a common human experience. i have lost people. i am not his experience is not my experience..
yeah, yeah. there's some resonance there.
no we couldn't have wait a minute. i
any problems, although some multiculturalists will again complicate the game telling you, but how do you know that the loss of a child means the same thing?
i don't. intellectually i don't. but there was a thing.
that know that's what i mean. i think that you were right. this was a universal, a genuine universal moment and i don't believe in this pseudo-intellectual complication. but how do i know?
it.
means the same thing to you as to him. no, i believe in this magic moments of sharing intimacy. i totally believe.
okay.
genuinely universal.
all right, i wanted to ask you about that. reading reading your book and then this.
it's happened. no, no.
so let's get to the second part of the show, huh we have.
surprise.
yeah, the video these are video. i suppose fuck you, you already had them there. they sent them to me. i've not watched them. i swear to you.
no, i'm not so bad.
i am better.
but not so bad.
all right, so the first one, is scott barry kaufman, who is the director of something called the imagination institute.
i'm an idiot. i don't know anything.
i don't know what that is either. i'm also an idiot on that score. and it's called, there is a way to unlock human potential, but it's not standardized testing.
the idea of what we should be testing is very hotly debated. there's a certain objectivity that we think we have once we standardize things and we give it the same test to everyone. and there is some truth to that, that the more you standardize a test, the more you kind of give everyone the same opportunity to perform on that test. so there is some argument to be made towards standardization. but we don't have standardized minds. i mean, no one has a standardized mind. there's no such thing as an average mind. so every one of us, every unique individual, as a dynamic system of not just cognitive processes, but motivational processes, dreams, desires. i formulated a theory, called it the theory of personal intelligence, because i argued i wanted to shift our focus of analysis from taking one aspect. we say, well, this is we've decided as society, that's our measure of intelligence. and then we compare everyone to each other on that one metric. so when it comes to testing, i'm not necessarily against testing. i'm not necessarily against using standardized tests. as a way of measuring learning outcomes, but as a way of measuring human potential, i'm not down with that.
it sounds nice, but i'm a little bit suspicious about it. you know why? because i don't like this focus on individuals. because this can ultimately also mean there are no idiots because each of us has individual standards and so on. of course, this is, even in a banal way, true. but there is nonetheless something in between this universal tests and your unique individual composer is, my god, we are not born as... individuals. we are raised through internalizing certain standards of our way of life and so on and so on.
we live in communities. we
these communities precisely always involve a certain balance between intellectual, emotional, organizationalatorial capacities and so on and so on. so, yes, we should demystify tests. they don't measure an objective property of yours and so on. but they can... well measured, how do you stand? with regard to what your community expects from a successful or bright or whatever human being. and here things get for me complicated because as i was yeah if you don't fit this model, it's not as simple as to say but maybe you have your own standards. yes, you have your own standards but you know, like 101 of 199 people, this your own standards mean you are dropout right and every 100, even less, makes out of this distance something creative and you explode. and i think it's too cheap to say, yeah, creativity in everyone and so on and so on. again, creativity, it's a very problematic term. what do we mean by creativity? i mean, creativity is again a term which i would... return to him, to this guy. his own argumentation and say what does he mean by creativity? different cultures appreciate creativity in a different for example, in some cultures's a creative way is what i ironically refer to as the, how do you call them, as the lee strasberg actors studio yeah
creativity means you openly bring
out right right, right.
i'm horrified.
there's a famous, do you know this famous, allegedly there was a conversation between laurence olivier and dustin hoffman on the set of marathon man. are i was.
totally, this is my favorite dentist movie. i'm totally on the side of laurence olivier.
olivia said, yeah, so for the audience.
yeah
hoffman has been, he shows up and said he's been up all night.
yes.
he's exhausted.
yeah,.
to try to get into
the.
using the
merci.
and he's too exhausted to act and olivier allegedly said to him, my dear man, why don't you just try acting?
yeah you see for me, although it was less of this creativity imagination, it was much more intelligent this typically british restraint laurence olivier. you know, even we don't even agree. how we measure creativity and so on. i'm here more on the side of this risk, although it may appear almost ironic the way i shout all the time, but i'm intimately much more sympathetic with this. british or conservative japanese approach where they claim true creativity is not in this explosion of ideas. true creativity should appear as modest, invisible. you apparently do nothing, nothing big, but all of a sudden you appear that everything is different, everything changed, you know. so it's much more,'s even more complex than he imagines. and that's why i think he's not totally right.
well so i want to introduce another kind of complexity. so, you know, what you're saying on the one hand is that cultures have different values and different definitions of intelligence.
yeah.
and and what you described was really a cultural or a personal preference for one style over another. you personally are sort of allergic to the kind of emotion-based, explosion-based form of creativity. yeah, but i will give you another example. sorry, very funny.
remember you know sam goldwyn, the producer, who was well known for his so-called goldwinisms. yes, apparent nonsense, but well thought out once.
okay, actually, you know what? i'm sorry, could you briefly explain?
sam goldwyn was the big metro-goldwyn-mayer producer who was well known for apparently making stupid mistakes, but which are very intelligent. so one of the stories of him is that he read in a newspaper the complaint that in the scenarios of the films he is making, there are too many old clichés. and he wrote a memo to his screenplay scenario department. we urgently need more new original he was deeply right. true creativity is not to break out of cliches, but to install new cliches. i see that's for me true creativity. every idiot can be creative in the sense of i'm out of clichés and so on. the truly difficult thing is to
proose a new cliche. i think that that second kind that you're talking about is also more sustainable. like if you're the sort of expressionist exploding creative that can only last so long before you.
i hate jackson pollock. my hero of abstract expressionism is mark rothko, not jackson pollock.
interesting. okay. so but what i was going to say also, though, is that the problem, going back to standardized testing, one of the problems is that i don't know that societies know what they value. what i'm trying to say is that i'm not sure that standardized tests always actually or accurately represent anything like the values.
absolutely obvious. but why even... expect this from standard tests and so on. what i'm on the other hand not against is that let's be very brutal you have a certain opening for a job right and you don't care about creativity blah blah you want people who are well at doing something right and i think you should have the right to test them and you don't pretend like you test me and i can then claim oh but you missed all my other creativities and you you can say, screw you, i'm not buying you as a whole person. i need you for this and i need you to have this property. i don't find there anything reified, alienated and so on and so on. but like if you are hired for a professor of mathematics. you should have certain abilities and i don't give a shit if you have ad
emotional ability. right, right, right, right, right, right. well, it gets even slipperier though, like, you know, for a professor of mathematics, that's one thing.'s, well, i won't call it concrete, but it's a little more concrete in some ways than what is needed in, say, a middle manager in a corporation.
i agree with you. there are many myths there. they don and it very confused.
andusing they have no idea what like when they hire people
they they don't know what they're doing. no, i totally agree with you. i even, for example, my good friend varoufakis, yanis, the greek, he told me, before he became varoufakis, well-known, he asked me, why don't we write a book on political economy, on economy together? i said, but i don't have any idea what economists do. he told me, neither do economists, you know, economists, a great science of magic like astrology, superstition. and so on. so this is a very deep thing what you said, especially people who pretend to understand others, psychological advisors and so on and so on, even psychoanalysts. it shocks me again and again how, for example, psychoanalysts, whom you would expect to have a refined nose for subtle nuances, i met so many, not just stupid but brutally insensitive. psychoanalysts who like much more than an average person don't get the point. like somebody can be making a tragic appeal, they dismiss this as just empty aggressivity or whatever. it makes you very pessimistic. and see how even the specialists don't get it.
because the people, whoever is gatekeeping in those fields, they can't agree upon what constitutes a good psychoanalyst.
yeah, but the problem is that you know this is the... of bureaucracy and all. you don't really want to solve a problem, you want to guarantee your reproduction. right. it
mitigating risk mostly.
so we yeah that my wife will not kill me.
i i don't want to.
otherwise.
kill you that would be terrible we will do one more okay and this will be
oh.
daniel bergner, who is an author and a journalist, saying neuroplasticity explains why women may be less monogamous than men.
there's some pretty stark research out there now that just talk about one study. this was done by a german scientist, looked at 2,500 committed couples, so no small number. the results are probably no fluke. and he measured their desire progressively over time. the desire starts at right about the same point for the men and for the women. so again, debunking this idea that somehow male desire, male libido, is is far stronger innately than female libido. but what happens interestingly is that male desire declines gradually over time. female desire dives much more dramatically than male desire within those committed relationships. and i think two things are worth saying. first, again, the very least this calls into question this idea that somehow women are comparatively better suited to monogamy than men are. but second has to do with cultural lessons and their effects on the brain. so i think most of us have heard this phrase or at least are familiar with the concept of brain plasticity. that is, the brain is shifting neurologically in response to what we do with it. well, what happens to the brain if we're taught very different lessons about sexuality from early on? boys are, of course, taught right from the playground, really, that being a little bit of a romeo, all to the good. girls are taught a very different and more constrained lesson, even in our seemingly unconstrained society.
can you help me? but you can yeah
didn didn't quite
get the.
the point is i know how with women it declined earlier, no?
i'm saying, yeah, in committed relationships. but
wait a minute, did he mean when he spoke about how women's eros declines much faster? did he mean generally the erotic desire of women or concretely the desire to your partner? the latter.
desire but it was not.
clear from his life
my understanding well, okay, my understanding of what he was saying was that he's proposing that women may be less inclined to monogamy than men because to, yeah, it's strange because it's like society conditions them not to be sexual beings and therefore sexuality drops off faster in relationships, but then why wouldn't it? why wouldn't it trap us another problem.
i.
ah.
nonetheless, women, in spite of gains of feminism and so on, are still more sexualized. even, i'll give you one measure. it's still considered normal, and i'm happy to enjoy this, to be married to a 30 years younger woman. okay, some people... a little bit ironic, but... no problems. right if i were to be 30 years younger, being married to 30 years older than me woman
in spite of all
of all changes brought by feminism, it would cause much greater animosity, ironic remarks at least, and so on and so on. so i think that
actually, i'm not sure. if really.
no!
because honestly, i think there are a lot of people in the united states who would view the like older man-younger woman relationship and make catty, snotty ironic.
thanks.
and, oh, look at him fishing for the younger and the other way around, i guess it would engender some ridicule, but i think it would engender in america more bafflement. i think people would be like confused. they'd be like, huh why is that happening?
no, it.
we.
nice to ask, what does he see in her? not in an ironic way, but genuinely, like, why is that woman so attractive and so on? but okay, then i will put it in this way. wouldn't it be more logical in an abstract way from this decline of desire?
rightclaim.
but if in the marriage we have this gap, like when you are married 15 years, your wife's desire declines, so you should be the one looking for it elsewhere then. this.
right. right.
get it well that makes sense well i think what i agree with sorry is plasticity that you know the way our brain is all permanently restructuring itself it matters a lot and so on and so on also again we have to be so precise here i think that it's with men still, this is traditional identity, i know but it's if. anything till recently it was much more considered normal for a woman to be more exclusively mothers, stay at home and man is the one who goes outside, travels, does the job and so on. now the truly interesting see, it would be this one. if we are passing, i hope we are, from this to this post-patriarchal family, where woman is also expected to make a career and so on how does this shift affect the permanence of sexual excitement of desire? like, what did their relative at least emancipation, and this is a great gain for women.
yeah.
that it's considered normal, you're not a pathological frigid woman right if you want to make a career gain. how does this affect woman's desire?
does it diminish it?
or does it really strengthen?
i mean. great question. and i think one thing i wanted to say or that i thought of while watching this video is how mysterious sexuality remains. and maybe that's a good thing. we don't, going back to what we were saying before about experts, like nobody is the expert on it. it's this very murky, scary realm. people don't talk about it in much. i mean, they do among friends or whatever, but as a society, the data exists, but not. in any consistent or robust way so people can come along and claim this or that may be the case about women's sexuality.
the problem for this is that probably the guy has more behind it.
yeah yeah.
from this clip, it simply appears to me, but i don't blame him because i didn't get enough background data. it wasn't clear. i see so many other options to interpret this, like when he said, we follow 250 couples or what.
right, right, right, right, right.
example. well, i would like, i would be much more interested if we were to compare one group of couples which remain married all the time and others which got divorced and so on, women and men, other partners, and how does this affect your there so on. there are so many other venues here that i simply
yeah, fair enough. but going back to one thing, i think, and then we can wind it up. have you seen the film harold and maude? do you know the film harold and maude?
i i totally forgot about that.
okay,.
i've seen it 30 years.
yeah, yeah, yeah, it's a hal ashby film and like maud is an older lady and harold is discontent in his life and he falls in love with her. and that's the only film, i mean, i thought of it because of what you said. it's the only film i know of and it's the only piece of literature, like we all know lolita, right? which disgusts us on the other hand because we can't believe the intensity of this somewhat likable narrator's affection for this young girl. with harold and maud, it's to show, you know, maud must be 80 and harold is maybe 20. so radical. and he falls in love with her. how it sexual love or no, it's love love. she opens his world. he's in a very constrained family environment. his mom is rich. she's constantly trying to give him presents like a jaguar which he converts into a hearse. you would enjoyed this film, i think. i'm least. again.
else.
it
interesting movie because one of my absolutely favorite hollywood movies did you see also hal ashby? being there? yeah, yeah.
that's
the
ultimately
about transference how a complete idiot if you find yourself at the right place yes it produces magic and so on. i like the situation how then the guy says total platitudes and they are overinterpretedted as wise instruction into politics and so on and so on. that's the reality of our lives. i think it's one of the most radical wonderful movies.
it's incredible. yeah, it's peter sellers and it's based on a book by an eastern european poet yeah.
then there is another role, it's i think shirley maclaine.
yes, yes, yes. yeah, and he he's a gardener with limited mental capacity. and everyone thinks he's a genius because he speaks in sort of zen koans, which are not no.
the is that they are common sense statements, but because he occupies the position of a genius, they are interpreted as
and you feel that...
but that defines much of our
intellectual life.
maybe not in such an extreme
way back.
so much depends on how you are interpreted. i often notice this. when people take me seriously as a philosopher, i say something vulgar, they look something from it. from other people, i can develop what i think is, well, a nice line of thought, they dismiss it as meaningless and so on. so much depends on this horizon of expectation, how you approach it.
yeah, how do you feel about this weird, like, i keep seeing this, the elvis of philosophy. that seems incredibly insulting.
again and again i protest to my publishers, please don't do this. yeah. and it just sticks to it's.
mis of
we. what is that?
obviously a serious
alle.
yeah.
but that's why when people tell me how does it feel you are a star of philosophy, i claim no. being called star of philosophy popular is a refined way to attack me. it's a way to say, oh, you are a funny guy, but not too serious but i stop.
who cares yeah, yeah, you have to right.
how could you?
there.