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Contractual Sex & False Consent

Gender, Sexuality & Late-Capitalist Subjectivity · 9 concepts · 20 talks · 32.6 hours · 2011–2022

Žižek and his interlocutor identify the consensual sadomasochist contract as the secret model of politically-correct discourse on sex: it is the only sexual encounter that fully satisfies the demand for explicit, negotiated consent.

2011: 1 talk 2012: 3 talks 2014: 2 talks 2015: 1 talk 2017: 2 talks 2018: 6 talks 2019: 2 talks 2020: 1 talk 2022: 1 talk
≤2000talks carrying this idea, per year2026

In his words 4

“Slave trade becomes the ultimate assertion of freedom.”
17:44 Lubitsch in Times of Political Correctness · contractual consent self-negating into slavery
“They don't go far enough. What is problematic is what they call 'the enthusiastic presence of a yes-yes-yes.'”
1:01:20 Like a Thief in the Night: A Question of Manners · affirmative consent is insufficient, not excessive
“I like, Stalin would be jumping out of pleasure in his grave, like you know, everything has to be recorded by the state and so on.”
9:59 Birthday Special: Politics, Philosophy and Hardcore Pornography · PC consent laws as Stalinist state surveillance of intimacy

The stories that teach it

the jokes and anecdotes he reaches for when he works in this idea, ranked by how many of its talks they turn up in; each card is one story, with every retelling on its page

example · in 5 of its talks

Brassed Off coffee invitation

A woman invites a man up for coffee; he says he doesn't like coffee; she says she has none, the double withdrawal of coffee produces erotic meaning far more charged than a direct proposition.

anecdote · in 3 of its talks

Hotel in Skopje: ashtray with no-smoking sign

At a Skopje hotel, Žižek's chain-smoking wife is told smoking is prohibited by law, but there are ashtrays in the room. The ashtrays have a no-smoking image on their base. Žižek reads this as the collapse of the economy of transgression: prohibition and permission are superimp…

example · in 4 of its talks

Dating agencies: 'find love without the fall'

French and American dating agency advertisements promise busy women that they can 'find yourself in love without the fall', for Žižek the very thing these agencies eliminate is what makes love love.

setpiece · in 3 of its talks

Machines having sex / stamina training unit

Žižek's utopian vision of modern sex: he and a woman connect their respective sex-toys to electricity and let the machines enjoy each other while they drink tea and talk, relieved of the superego command to enjoy, real romance can emerge without pressure.

example · in 3 of its talks

James Bond Quantum of Solace, no sex at the end

Žižek notes that Quantum of Solace is the first Bond film where the love affair is not consummated, the protagonists simply split apart, as evidence that even Hollywood has abandoned the ideology of passionate love.

example · in 3 of its talks

Da Vinci Code / Da Vinci, sex displaced onto Jesus

In The Da Vinci Code there is no sex between the protagonists, but Jesus himself has to make love to cover for the absence of sex between Robert Langdon and the heroine. In Angels & Demons, sex present in the novel is removed from the film.

Where it comes up 20

23 moments located in the transcripts, click a timestamp to play from there

38:54 contractual sex
… But this consensual sex then all too sudden turns into contractual sex.
~52:32 sexual arousal as punishment
was able to get erection in the same totally controlled way in which you raise your hand to work on a field and so on. It was just pure instrumental activity and then you maybe know it’s beautiful what St. Augustine the title of the …
At Nuit Blache2012-09-29 · 2:06:58
1:00:39 contractual sex
… But this consensual sex then all of a sudden turns into contractual sex, you know, as two rational people we make a contract, you do this to me, I do this to you, and so on and so on.
35:57 contractual sex
… It's not a marriage contract, but it is what Kant, he uses an obscene term like *fornicationis*, the fornication contract.
7:41 contractual sex
… Another thing: did you notice how the very idea of sexual contract automatically privileges a certain kind of sex, which is casual sex, one-night stands? Because you know, you will not sign with your permanent partner every morning a contract or whatever.
~9:52 contractual sex
entrance to her flat, this is what happens. The second, the clip please, Brassed Off. Do you want to come up for coffee? I don't drink coffee. I haven't got any. You see, this is, sorry, stop. This is for me the zero level of …

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Concepts in this idea 9

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contractual sex
The endpoint of anti-harassment logic where consensual sex becomes a rational contract between two parties, which Žižek argues eliminates the necessarily transgressive moment of expressing desire.
4
desexualization of reality
The underside of modernity's disenchantment: not just a gap between cold objective reality and subjective meaning, but specifically the removal of sexuality from the ontological structure of the universe.
3
consent
The argument that liberal sexual ethics focusing on consent ignore the inherent ambiguity, coercion, and contradiction of sexuality, which can exist even within 'free' exchanges.
3
enthusiastic affirmation
A satirical concept from MeToo proposals suggesting that consent must be enthusiastic and repeated, which Žižek mocks as impractical and absurd in real-life sexual dynamics.
2
masochist contract
Žižek and his interlocutor identify the consensual sadomasochist contract as the secret model of politically-correct discourse on sex: it is the only sexual encounter that fully satisfies the demand for explicit, negotiated consent.
1
coerced 'yes'
A formal affirmative consent given under social or psychological pressure, which Žižek argues is not true consent and cannot be solved by demanding more explicit verbal agreements.
1
pactum fornicationis
Kant's term for a short-term sexual contract, dismissed by Kant as reducing persons to objects; Žižek cites it to show that the contractual logic of sex has a long philosophical history with paradoxical consequences.
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sadomasochist contract as sexual norm
Žižek argues the contractual, consent-protocol model of sex promoted by MeToo and political correctness is secretly modelled on formal BDSM contracts, a desexualized regulatory fantasy.