Dating agencies: 'find love without the fall'

As told 14

“You are a busy woman so you don't have time to flirt, to look for partners. We will enable you to find yourself in love without the fall.”
43:58 The Metaphysics of Love2015-11-25 · 1:46:18

“The idea is we will enable you to find yourself in love without the fall.”
1:37:57 XLII Sigmund Freud Lecture by Slavoj Žižek: Theology, Negativity, and the Death-Drive2015 · 1:49:50

“more and more you have this dating and marriage agencies advertising their services in this way. we will enable you to be in love without falling in love without the fall.”
5:32 A very dangerous Q&A - FULL with English subtitlespub. 2011-10-04 · 57:16

What it carries

one story, many jobs: the ideas this anecdote is deployed to argue, one tally mark per use (an idea page shows the same relation from the other end, as its shelf of stories)

contents · one story, 3 jobsuses

love without the fall ×5 the fall ×2 narcissism ×2

Its cast and sources

populated by

Dan Brown6 Virginia Woolf4 Daphne du Maurier3 Thomas Dean Donnelly and Joshua Oppenheimer3 Paul Churchland3 Patricia Churchland3 Karl Popper4 Terry Gilliam3

alongside works

Quantum of Solace9 The Da Vinci Code10 Angels and Demons7 The King's Speech3 The Act of Killing3 The Lost Symbol3 Mr. Bennett and Mrs. Brown2 The Exception and the Rule2

Told together with

23% Da Vinci Code / Da Vinci, sex displaced onto Jesus 5 shared talks 20% James Bond Quantum of Solace, no sex at the end 4 shared talks 14% Brassed Off coffee invitation 4 shared talks 13% Austrian-German telegram (catastrophic but not serious) 2 shared talks 13% Act of Killing, Indonesian death-squad TV show 2 shared talks 13% China banning time-travel and alternate-history narratives 3 shared talks 12% Reagan and Holocaust-denial dinner guests 2 shared talks 11% Chesterton's philosophical policeman 2 shared talks 11% Machines having sex / stamina training unit 2 shared talks 11% Polish socialist store, no butter, no toilet paper 2 shared talks 10% Remote-controlled rat 3 shared talks 10% Brazil restaurant scene 2 shared talks

Every retelling 14

43:58 The Metaphysics of Love2015-11-25 · 1:46:18

French and American dating agency advertisements promise busy women that they can 'find yourself in love without the fall', for Žižek the very thing these agencies eliminate is what makes love love., illustrating the fall as constitutive of love,enlightened hedonism,managed romance

1:37:57 XLII Sigmund Freud Lecture by Slavoj Žižek: Theology, Negativity, and the Death-Drive2015 · 1:49:50

Dating agencies advertise enabling you to 'find yourself in love without the fall,' avoiding the surprise and void of genuine encounter., illustrating the fall

5:32 A very dangerous Q&A - FULL with English subtitlespub. 2011-10-04 · 57:16

Žižek observes that contemporary dating and marriage agencies now advertise 'we will enable you to be in love without falling in love', love with all the risk and the fall removed, as a symptom of the colonisation of intimacy by managed safety., illustrating naive love as transgression,permissive hedonism,commodification of intimacy

52:05 Freedom in the Clouds2011-10-21 · 1:35:48

A French dating agency ad promises to 'trouver' (find yourself) in love 'sans tomber' (without falling), used by Žižek and Badiou to diagnose the narcissistic outsourcing of love's vulnerability., illustrating erotic love in late capitalism,narcissism,pseudo-activity

25:10 Twitch Q&A2019-03-27 · 56:37

An American dating agency ad explicitly promised 'You are a busy person, we will enable you to be in love without falling', which Žižek takes as a symptom of the horror of contemporary managed love., illustrating love without falling,ideology

1:50:48 In Conversation with Jonathan Derbyshire2012-06-12 · 1:56:53

A dating agency advertises 'find yourself in love without the fall', promising to protect clients from the traumatic vulnerability of falling in love. Žižek uses this as evidence that the ruling ideology now pathologizes the very structure of genuine erotic attachment., illustrating controlled hedonism,love as catastrophe,ideology of safe enjoyment